As much as I hate it and as much as it is overused, relationships. Yes, I know, so abusé de et doux, but let's face it. It is a huge part in everybody's everyday life, and no matter where you live or who you are, it's a part of your everyday life too. Don't worry though, it's not gonna be like one of those cheesey, tween articles you'd find in teen vogue or that magazine with all the disney and nick stars on the cover talking about their 16 year old "love life". Just some personal thoughts, ideas, outake and (maybe not so great) advice.
The way I decided on this extremely interesting and lovely idea is from conversing with my friend Emma about my new blog and she suggested that yes, it may be overused but we can turn it into an interesting post. Yours truly has just come out of a very interesting, very confusing, very short relationship that i'm still reflecting back on, and trying to make sense of. So when Emma suggested relationships as a first topic, I thought shoot, why not?? And so my darlings, here we are.
Here are a few tips of advice I think everybody looking for a genuinely good and happy relationship should take into account:
1) Get to know each other before you decide on any commitments. Talk about yourself, listen to them talk about themselves. Find some common interests, likes and dislikes. Go do something together! Whether it's mini golf, ice-cream, going to a museum or going for a bike ride (skip the movies, you can't get to know each other while staring blankly at a screen!) even have a movie night back at your house! Let them get to know your friends and you get to know theirs. Because if y'all can't work as friends, you sure as heck ain't gonna work as anything more. I think that's where I went wrong in my previous relationship. I saw a cute guy who was funny and sweet and a really crappy pool player that made me feel better about how bad I play, and we didn't even take the time to get to know each other. Just jumped the gun.
2)Ignore everybody else!! Once you guys do make it to that next level in your friendship and have decided to make it more of a commitment type relationship, then be confident in it! So what if he's not the hottest guy with the best abs? So what if she's not the thinnest, blonde haired, blue-eyed girl on the block? If you find him/her to be a good person who treats you well and makes you happy, then you're on the right track. Race, origin, religion, sex... none of that should matter if you truly care about the other person! Forget about what everyone else thinks, just worry about yourselves!
3)TAKE IT SLOW!!! Alot of times, people are so excited about being in a new relationship, that they think they develop feelings that they actually haven't! A couple weeks in, they may think that they've "fallen in love" or are ready to take it to that next level already, when all they really are is just mesmorized by the fact that they have someone new and exciting to share their life with. I can't say if love at first sight really happens or not, it hasn't for me yet, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen! There can be some cases in which you really do fall in love at first sight, but make sure you keep it calm, cool and slooww! Rushing too fast into things can really make a person get scared, nervous or just feel too caught up and then want to just rid of it all together. So, the point here is, if you think you really really do care about this person, then just wait. Wait it out, enjoy every moment together, because if it's supposed to work out, then it will.
Aaaaaaand now! Some fun little random facts about relationships and all that blahblahblah shtuffs! (:
1) The most common time for breakups is around three to five months.
2) On free dating sites, at least 10% of new accounts are scammers.
3) If a man can't decide what to wear on a date, he might want to wear blue. Studies show that women are attracted to men in blue.
4) According to Planned Parenthood and MSNBC, 10% of all teenage girls get pregnant before turning 20. (In otherwords, WEAR A HAT!)
5) Nearly 40% of men do not feel confident when meeting a woman for the first time.
6) Four common date blunders include showing up late, talking about yourself too much, revealing too much about your ex, and an obvious over-eagerness.
7) Research shows that men know they’re falling in love after just three dates, but women don’t fall in love until date 14.
8) A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.
9) Mirroring, or repeating someone's body language, often impresses a date because it subtly conveys interest to the other person. One should avoid copying every move however.
10) Humans like mystery and "the chase", so don't be too "available" to a date. Dating experts typically suggest not sleeping too early with a date because the longer the chase, the more likely love will blossom.
There ya have it, hope you enjoyed! Ideas for another topic or comments, opinions, ideas? Feel free to comment or e-mail me!
xoxo
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